New Family issues
The American family has changed somewhat. And this change affects planning a wedding. Questions arise such as who should walk the bride down the aisle, the father, the stepfather, both or neither.
Where should these parents and step-parents be seated. How about divorced parents who have not yet remarried?
These are tough questions, that are very tough to answer. However, Mikki Viereck, our online wedding consultant has been answering just this type of question for years.
Her Q&A Column can be found at http://www.wedalert.com/content/wedding_advice
Here are some sample Q&A regarding the family issues outlined above. After looking at them, feel free to comment how you would approach these issues.
Q: Where should my father sit at the reception? My parents have been divorced for 20 years and both my father and my step dad will walk me down the isle. None of my fathers family will be there(my step-mom won't be there either) My father is still some what friendly with the rest of my family but I don't think it would be appropriate to seat him with my mom and step-dad and grandparents, or would it?
A: Hi Jaclyn, You should ask your father, mom and step dad if it would be OK to seat him at their table. If that is a problem it would be fine to seat him at another table of people he gets along with.Best Wishes, Mikki
Q: I told my stepmother that I wanted to have my father and stepfather walk me down the isle. Well she turned around and told my father after I told her that I wanted to tell him. Well needless to say she said that he would be extremely hurt, well when I talked to my dad he said that he was not happy with it but he would do I what I wanted him to do. My father is the type of guy that does not show emotion. Do I take what my stepmother told me and not have my stepfather walk me down the isle? Or should I just have them both walk me down the isle knowing that my father is unhappy about it? There is been nothing but fights since then, I am a people pleaser and that is something that I have been working on.
A: Hi Jennifer, It sounds like you take after your dad. He does not show emotion to please people (you in this case) and You try to please people so that you won't have to show your emotions let everyone know how you feel. Traditionally the father of the bride walks the bride down the aisle If you are close to your dad and there is no problem between you and him why would you ask your step dad to join in? (You did not explain why you are considering your step dad too). Do you think your step dad would understand if you walk with your dad? However if your step dad is the one who raised you and you do not have a close relationship with your dad than you could have your step dad walk you half way and your dad finish the walk to your groom. Or have them both escort you the whole way. Guess its time to tell people what you want to do. Best Wishes, Mikki
There are many more topics to be explored, and you cvan also ask your own question, by visiting http://www.wedalert.com/content/wedding_advice
Where should these parents and step-parents be seated. How about divorced parents who have not yet remarried?
These are tough questions, that are very tough to answer. However, Mikki Viereck, our online wedding consultant has been answering just this type of question for years.
Her Q&A Column can be found at http://www.wedalert.com/content/wedding_advice
Here are some sample Q&A regarding the family issues outlined above. After looking at them, feel free to comment how you would approach these issues.
Q: Where should my father sit at the reception? My parents have been divorced for 20 years and both my father and my step dad will walk me down the isle. None of my fathers family will be there(my step-mom won't be there either) My father is still some what friendly with the rest of my family but I don't think it would be appropriate to seat him with my mom and step-dad and grandparents, or would it?
A: Hi Jaclyn, You should ask your father, mom and step dad if it would be OK to seat him at their table. If that is a problem it would be fine to seat him at another table of people he gets along with.Best Wishes, Mikki
Q: I told my stepmother that I wanted to have my father and stepfather walk me down the isle. Well she turned around and told my father after I told her that I wanted to tell him. Well needless to say she said that he would be extremely hurt, well when I talked to my dad he said that he was not happy with it but he would do I what I wanted him to do. My father is the type of guy that does not show emotion. Do I take what my stepmother told me and not have my stepfather walk me down the isle? Or should I just have them both walk me down the isle knowing that my father is unhappy about it? There is been nothing but fights since then, I am a people pleaser and that is something that I have been working on.
A: Hi Jennifer, It sounds like you take after your dad. He does not show emotion to please people (you in this case) and You try to please people so that you won't have to show your emotions let everyone know how you feel. Traditionally the father of the bride walks the bride down the aisle If you are close to your dad and there is no problem between you and him why would you ask your step dad to join in? (You did not explain why you are considering your step dad too). Do you think your step dad would understand if you walk with your dad? However if your step dad is the one who raised you and you do not have a close relationship with your dad than you could have your step dad walk you half way and your dad finish the walk to your groom. Or have them both escort you the whole way. Guess its time to tell people what you want to do. Best Wishes, Mikki
There are many more topics to be explored, and you cvan also ask your own question, by visiting http://www.wedalert.com/content/wedding_advice
posted by WedAlert at 10:19 AM
3 Comments:
Hello! I have a question. My father was never a really big part of my life. He Domestically abused my mother and they were divorced when I was 12. My mother has always been my mother and father figure, and I look up to her more than any other person. I was wondering if it would be ok to have her walk me down the isle?
I know how difficult it is. My parents are divorced and I just wish that they could put aside their differences for my wedding day. But no, they continue their petty bad feelings for each other and I cannot even sit them at the same table.
shimmer,
I think it would be fine for your mom to walk you. It is your day after all.
Post a Comment
Links to this post:
Create a Link
<< Home